Women support women- An unrealistic fad
Building a valuable network
Not everyone will be interested in what you do or what your offer. Is it a bitter pill to swallow? Yes- but a blunt truth that must be said.
Seriously, women in your generation seem to think they should be supported just because they are women and it doesn't work like that. People are inclined to support you when you’re a woman who has created something valuable. — Mrs Abafo, Smart Money Tribe
It is obviously unrealistic and exhausting to demand that someone support every woman they come across on the basis of WOMANHOOD.
I’m more likely to support someone if I meet them and think a connection or relationship with them will be mutually beneficial. I’ll also utilize my resources to assist them and introduce them to my network of friends.
In my short life, I’ve met people with beautiful personalities and positive energies who wanted to be friends with me.
At first, I thought, “Why not,” but as the relationship developed, I realized that I was getting nothing meaningful out of the other person, while other people were draining my strength and attempting to change my personality.
The unfortunate problem was that my relationship with them was not specified and defined.
Having friends and supporting wonderful, excellent people are certainly things I value, but there must also be something else beneficial that these relationships provide.
In reframing friendships and support, consider the relationships you have with the CEO of a firm you’re applying to, the Venture Capitalist who gave you his card, and the friend who is the executive assistant to your role model. Are you in a position to call them for aid, and if you do, will they use their resources to help or put a word in your favor?
The phrase “your network is your net worth” holds true in building connections, not only monetarily but a net worth of opportunities, personal development, spiritual development, career development and business development.
When opportunities arise, I tend to recommend someone who has had an impact in one or more areas of my life.
“For your network to truly be your net worth you need access to a community of people that will go bat for you even when you’re not in the room” Arese
Don’t count on people’s support based on your gender or class; instead, focus on building relationships that are valuable to you.
Be of value!
“Which of you shall have a friend, and go to him at midnight and say to him, ‘Friend, lend me three loaves;”- Luke 11:5
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